Stop Blaming Women For “Choosing” Crappy Partners

damircudic/E+/Getty ImagesIt was one of the worse things people said to me when I announced I had left my emotionally abusive husband, two months after giving birth to my daughter: “I always knew he was a bad guy.”It wasn’t helpful. It didn’t make me feel any better about my situation, nor did it make me feel stronger. All it did was make me feel guilty. Guilty that I had given my daughter this man as a father, guilty that I had fallen for his tricks when clearly everybody else knew he was bad news, guilty that I was bad at picking partners. It felt like another dig in a situation that already